One is, the "love bank" - that is every time someone makes you feel good, or you have fun together they get "deposits" into your love bank - everytime you deal with a stressful situation or are unhappy with someoone they get "withdrawls" from your love bank - thus, the people you live with, often get many more 'withdrawls' just dealing w/the practical stuff- so... you have to have other things that are positive refilling the bank -even more then other friends, because .. they are just around you a lot more. If that makes sense.
The other main idea (which is really the bulk of the book) is that we all have "needs" or expectations in a relationship, and these are different for different people. So, while there are a basic "10 needs" that cover most aspects of relationship interactions - we can't be good on all of them: it's too difficult, so we try & are really good at a few of them. So are every person who we know. Thus, the question becomes: if you could have 5 of your "needs" met by one partner, your love bank would constantly be refilling & you would probably be quite happy with that person, even living together. Ok - well what are the needs?
I'll present them "poll style" - choose the 5 you feel you would Most like to have (hopefully you would get some of all of them, but really - what are the 5 needs you have to have, or you would fell "something's missing"/"I'm unhappy partnering with this person") - be honest! LOL.
So, here's the poll - no answers are wrong - I'm really curious what people consider their top 5 needs to be content in their relationship. Thanks - I hope you find this interesting, too.
This is based on the idea of Willard F. Harley's book - Not everyone wants all & you may have more then 5 of these needs, but choose the top 5 "needs" you couldn't go without in a relationship, and stay happy. Pick 5 ! None of these are more or less legit - it's hard to pick just 5! But, if that's all you know someone could be really good at - what would you choose??